The Terrible Two’s
For many parents the “toddler years” are filled with a mix of emotions ranging from loved-up feelings of adoration to frustration and irritation. And these are all totally normal feelings to experience when you are dealing with a growing little human.
During their first three years children learn so much about themselves and their place in the world, that they often can feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed by big emotions, and their only way to cope with these big emotions is by their own extreme reactions. They react by screaming, kicking, biting and hitting their parents, siblings, friends or teachers.
If you’ve ever been confronted with a screaming toddler, we have some tips on how you can help your little one deal with these big and intimidating emotions:
- Stay calm
Try and stay level-headed when your toddler is in the middle of a meltdown. Don’t scream or react ultimately imitating their behavior. Take a minute to gather your thoughts before handling the situation which will also make your toddler feel like you are in control.
- What are they feeling?
Ask your child to verbalise the emotions they are experiencing for you to help them feel better. Are you sad, angry, happy?
- Wait it out
Wait a few minutes for the storm to pass, don’t approach your toddler as soon as they start screaming. Give them a few minutes to experience the emotion they are feeling.
- Reduce stress
Reduce stress that your toddler might experience – things like fatigue, hunger and over-stimulation are all things you can minimise to help make sure they are not the reason for a temper tantrum.
- Be consistent
Always have the same approach when dealing with a temper tantrum, when you sometimes give in your child will be confused if you don’t do what they want in the future. Whatever you choose, always be consistent with your approach.
Stay positive! Temper tantrums are a normal and natural part of growing up and kids grow out of them as soon as they’ve learnt how to cope with their emotions and environment.